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Dear A.S.,

I have a good friend that I've been cool with for a long time, about a year ago she became pregnant by a guy who didn't care for her; he only enjoyed having sex with her. Because she was in love with him, she decided to keep the baby. She was doing great as far as going to school, she graduated from high school and decided to continue her education in college. She's now in her third semester and just found out she was pregnant again, by the same guy who is not taking care of the first child. Her parents doesn't know yet,but when they find out my friendwill not have a place to live. My friend doesn't work either. I tried t tell her that right now the best choice for her is to have an abortion;so she could at least remain home and continue going to school, but she claimsabortion is against her religion. What should I do to help her in this situation?

Confused Friend

Dear Confused Friend,

You've gotten yourself involved in a very touchy situation, I totally understand your concern for your friend as well as the advise you've offered. Given the circumstance, it would seem like abortion would be one of the best options; That is if that's what your heart is telling you. But know this, children don't ask to come here, nor do they have the option of what kind of people they'd like to have as parents. The fact of the matter is, if you lay down with dogs, you will catch some flees. As a friend, my advise to you is this; know your role, know when to leave well enough alone. I'm sure you've seen or heard of those situations where a couple may get into something, friends and family get involved and then two days later they're right back together like nothing ever happened? -Exactly

BIG A.S.

Dear A.S.,

Me and my man have been together for two years now and our relationship doesn't seem to be going anywhere. We don't go out much anymore because he's always tired when he gets home from work or just too busy to do whatever. I love him and want to continue to be with him but I'm fed up. What should I do?

Bored but in love

Dear Bored but in love,

Maybe what you guys need to do is work on the communication part of the relationship first. Find out if there's still a fire burning at both ends. Then take things slow discuss your differences, there could be something going on outside the relationship that needs to be dealt with during these times. There may be tension deriving from work, from family and friends or a host of other things going on. Just because y'all don't go out as much anymore doesn't have to be because of negative circumstances, it could be something very minor that only needs to be worked out through discussion.

BIG A.S.

Dear A.S.,

I heard your CD, it was like that, I'm feeling you. Me and my squad get down. We wanted to get down on that next jaun yaa mean. We want to know how we can get with you on some things. I'm telling you fam - we hot! These boughs from out Cali said they dug our stuff and wanted to hear something else, so we tryin to holla-get wit us.

Thug City MC's

Dear Thug City MC's

First I want to say thanks for the compliments. It's always good to be appreciated. I'm very interested in hearing what you guys have to bring to the table. As you may well know I am a producer who is in the business of producing good quality music. I'm currently working on my next project, if you're really interested in being a part of what's going on, what i need for you to do is send me a copy of your latest work showcasing your skills along with a way to get back in touch with you. If your work is like that... then we'll see where we can go from there.

BIG A.S.

Dear A.S.

I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 25, all of my girlfriends keep clowning me saying that that's statuatory rape and how I'm messing with a old man. I personally think they're jealous because he buys me nice things and takes me out and stuff. He is real sweet and has his own car. They just mad because they're boyfriends are young, broke and immature.

My own Woman

Dear My Own Woman

I'm not here to jump on the bandwagon or anything, but do you really think you have what it takes to satisfy a 25 year old MAN all across the board? Do you think the two of you are on the same level? Do you ever ask yourself why don't I date guys my own age? Whatever your response is just know that regardless of who, when and why you date older guys you will never be on equal playing fields because of your age difference (At this time). A lot of young women seem to think that they're so much more mature than guys they're age and would rather date an older man, theres nothing wrong with that. Its only when that younger woman expresses how much more mature she is that the games begin. Older guys prey on youger females. They know the games as well as how to play them. When that older guy buy you things and take you for rides in they're cars...It ain't nothin' but an investment-if you know what i mean.

BIG A.S.

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